Beginner’s Guide to Dildos

What's long, satisfying, and can make you scream in ecstasy in delicious bursts? No, it's not a hotdog on a bun (or a stick, if you prefer) - it's every woman's favorite sex toy, the dildo!

Dildos have been around since sex was invented (probably), and they continue to be popular devices for personal sexy time today. If you've ever wondered, 'what is a dildo?', our response probably will be, 'where have you been hiding all this time?'

Dildos can be that final missing puzzle piece in your journey to find the ultimate sexual satisfaction. If you haven't used a sex toy before, then it's probably high time to dive right in and experience the best of what a good dildo has to offer.

In our beginner's guide to using a dildo, we'll explain in-depth what a dildo is, how to use a dildo, and the best positions for dildo-powered self-play. Along the way, we'll fill you in on tips on how to make the most of your sex toy and of course, how to make a dildo last longer (and give you more satisfaction).

What is a Dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy that's designed to mimic a real penis in shape and function. They're usually made from body-safe silicone and have a real head, shaft, and balls. Most modern dildos will have extra features, such as vibration, thrusting, and rotating mechanisms.

How Do I Work a Dildo For The Best Solo Play?

It wouldn't be a beginner's guide to dildo without a step-by-step guide on how to use a dildo. Here are some simple tips on insertion, masturbating, and riding.

Step 1. Get Wet and Lube Up

Always lube the dildo up and prepare your vagina before any action. Cover the tip with the lube and use your hand to spread it all the way around. Go crazy on the lube and you'll thank us later.

Step 2. Enter and Explore Slowly

Now that you're nice and wet, slowly insert the tip of the dildo until you're comfortable with it. Get used to the material and the way it penetrates. You can also go the roundabout way and have the dildo touch your external areas, like the clitoris or g-spot.

Take your time- there's no rush (unless you're on a break or something) and it's better to gain a deeper understanding before you go full-on mode. Warm up and make mental notes on where it's the most pleasurable for you.

Step 3. It's Off to the Races

At this point, it's safe to say that the gloves are off. You're wet, comfortable with using a dildo, and know where all your pleasure centers are. Once you're confident, go ahead and aim for the movement that satisfies you most, whether it's a slow and playful buildup or a wild finish.

Vary the penetration by changing up the depth and angle of the dildo. You know you're doing it right when your organ starts tingling and your horny level rises to ten. As an added tip, feel free to use your other hand or a few other sex toys in your closet. The main thing about a dildo is that you're in complete control. Every movement is what you wish for!

Step 4. Anal Play is a Whole New Level

Thinking about giving your tushy some action? Before you go exploring, there are some things you should keep in mind.

Refrain from putting the dildo back to your vagina once it's penetrated your ass, because hygiene. Reduce the risk of an infection by sticking to the same hole. Also, anal play requires a fair amount of preparation- you'll have to clean your butt up a bit to keep things worry-free. Like vaginal penetration, keep it slow and steady.

Last but not least, don't forget the lube!

The 4 Best Dildos You Can Buy

Thor - Realistic Silicone Suction Cup Dildo

Thor - Realistic Silicone Suction Cup Dildo

Simple and easy does the orgasmic trick with the 7-inch Thor. It's a straightforward and realistic dildo that should get you off your rockers and make you beg for more!

This dildo is made from medical-grade silicone and features all the ridges, veins, and curves you'd expect from a realistic sex toy. In the right hands, Thor can become your sweet lover and satisfy you to your very core. In addition, Thor is waterproof and fits right into a compatible harness for added play options.

Idalis - 8 inch Thrusting Vibrating Dildo 

Idalis - 8 inch Thrusting Vibrating Dildo

Idalis has all the bells and whistles you'd want in a high-end dildo. It's an electronic dildo with vibrating mechanism, and there's even a remote so you can control all the action from the palm of your hand.

This 3-in-1 dildo will give you the ride of your life, featuring vibrating, rotating, and thrusting options. At eight inches, you won't be left wanting in the length department. Explore each function first before you activate all of them, or you'd be in for a very short session.

Idalis has a suction base and body-safe silicone, which offers both convenience and many ways to play. It's also IPX6 waterproof if you want to take it to the bathroom or shower. There are so many ways to play that it will sometimes feel like you have two or three sex toys hanging around. You'd be looking forward to the next solo play with Idalis around!

Kong - Rotating 6 inch Dildo & G Spot Vibrator 

 

Kong - Rotating 6 inch Dildo & G Spot Vibrator

 

Kong is great for partner play as it can double as a g-spot massager, not to mention the rotating mechanism that can press on and off against the clitoris. If you're lucky enough to have a partner who agrees with bringing sex toys into the bedroom, then you'd definitely want Kong as your third wheel!

This versatile dildo can be controlled either by you or your partner depending on what fantasy you want. Kong is great at BDSM as well and if the domi has their hands full with whips and paddles. Oh, and did we mention that it has a double head, which means either end can penetrate and bring satisfaction simultaneously?

With a rechargeable battery that can be used for 1.5 hours, you won't ever run out of steam even in extended sessions. Vibrate and rotate to heavenly bliss with Kong, a multipurpose dildo that's sure to please.

Rahim - Self Thrusting Dildo Machine Remote Control 

 

Rahim - Self Thrusting Dildo Machine Remote Control

 

Sit back and experience absolute sexual bliss, courtesy of Rahim. This sex toy is an evolved version of good old traditional dildos, albeit with a self-pleasuring mechanism. As an excellent thrusting dildo, the device simulates actual sex and penetration sans any manual control.

With a self-thrusting dildo, all you need to do is position it at the right angle, lube it up, and voila! A sex machine at your every whim and command. You can control the 6.5 inch dildo through the electronic base via a remote. This opens up a world of possibilities where you can bend or lie back and turn on thrust mode.

Like any advanced sex toy, you'd want to practice with shallow penetrations first before going all in. Rahim works like a charm, and the device responds quickly and produces little noise. After ten minutes or so, you can ease in and enjoy the automated ride to sexual bliss!

The 4 Best Sex Positions for Dildo Play

Up Front and Center

A pseudo-missionary position is one of the best ways to explore your new dildo. There's no contortion necessary, and you can just lie back and manually control the device until you reach climax.

Start with your legs spread in a sitting position, or lie on your back and get comfortable. You may need to wet yourself a bit to get things going. In addition, apply some water-based lube on the skin of the silicone dildo to prevent chafing and discomfort.

Using your hand to guide the dildo, insert and finish as necessary.

On the Floor, Riding

You can use a dildo to simulate your favorite bedroom positions. After all, it's a cock replacement if your partner isn't around, so whichever way you want should work (more or less)

A cowgirl or reverse cowgirl position allows you to feel every inch of the dildo as it penetrates. Since it's you versus gravity, you can control the depth and thrust of the dildo. As a side note, you should do some leg exercises so you won't get tired halfway through.

Put the dildo on the floor with the tip pointing up. Gauge the distance and gradually lower yourself down to get contact.

Penetration From Behind

Most dildos will have a suction base that can stick to flat walls and surfaces for stability. How fascinating would it be if your dildo could do doggy style? Well, wonder no more- here's a trick you can use!

Affix the suction end of the dildo to a flat and stable wall, making sure it's secure and ready for action. Then, bend down or at a 45-degree angle and slowly work the dildo into your vagina or anus. Use your hips and legs to do thrusting motions, just like you would in dog-style sex. Changing the angle to point the dildo slightly downwards or upwards is optional.

Partner Play

Dildos are superb additions to bedroom play and spice up your couple's sex life from zero to one hundred. There are actually many ways to incorporate a dildo, from foreplay to simulating a longstanding fantasy of a threesome.

Experiment with the dildo first and see how it can work seamlessly into your routine. You can either hand the toy over to your partner to get the surprise of your life or enhance the sensation by putting the dildo in your mouth or against your breasts and nipples.

How to Choose the Right Dildo For You

Now that you know how a dildo works, the next step is to go out there and buy the one that you want. To help you in your quest to find the perfect dildo, here are some factors you should consider.

Size

The general assumption when buying a dildo is the bigger or longer, the better. The truth is, size does matter but there are times when it's too big for you. The good news is that there are plenty of sizes to choose from, ranging from four inches to a whopping eight inches. 

Features

This is where you might lose yourself trying to find the dildo with the features you want. A dildo can be as simple or as complex as you'd like. Experienced users will want a dildo that does several things, while beginners should stick to a toy that will feel good going in and out.

Cleanup Duty and Maintenance

A significant portion of owning a dildo is cleaning it and making sure it's in tip-top shape. Electronic dildos are typically more tedious to clean than good old regular dildos, which require nothing more than a wash and dry. Look for descriptions that say 'easy to clean' before you click the 'buy now' button.

Brand

The brand is an important part when shopping for the best dildo. The more popular they are, the greater the chance that you'd end up with a sex toy you'll love and use often. Also, reputable brands will have perks such as warranty and return options. Honey Play Box makes high-quality dildos in various shapes, sizes, and functions for fun in the bedroom. If you want a long-lasting sex toy as a constant companion then go with Honey Play Box products. Try us today!

Tina Young

Tina Young has always been passionate about exploring sexuality and empowering others to explore and express their own sexual desires. She is an experienced sex toy reviewer, examining people’s relationship with pleasure and the expression and fulfillment of their desires through sex toys. Tina is also a sex coach, helping individuals understand, express, and become comfortable with their own sexuality.

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