Pegging is a fun and exciting way to explore your sexual relationship with your partner. It's also a way to add some variety into your sex life, especially if you've been doing things the same way (or almost) every time. Pegging can be done solo or with a partner, but it's most popular when two people get together and play out fantasies they might not be able to do on their own.
What is Pegging?
As Insider puts it, pegging is a form of anal sex. It's also known as "pegging" or "butt play."
Pegging was originally coined by a gay man named Patrick Califia, who wrote about it in his book Penetration Play: The Art and Craft of Pegging. In this article, he describes how he came up with the term "pegging."
He says that he and his partner were laughing about how "femme" is a term used to describe a gay man who has feminine qualities. They started thinking of other words they could use to describe the act of anal penetration with a strap-on dildo, and they came up with "pegging."
How to Pegging?
Together with Healthline and Insider, the first thing to remember is that pegging is a very personal experience. It can be a bit overwhelming, especially if you've never tried it before. To help ease into this new world of sensation and pleasure, start with something simple like kissing or touching your partner's body as gently as possible.
Starting from here will help you discover what feels good for both of you—and make sure that whatever moves are involved in the process aren't too fast or rough at first! The goal isn't necessarily for things to progress rapidly; rather it's about finding out how much pressure works best for each other so that both partners are comfortable throughout their journey together (and avoid any injuries).
The next step is to use your hands, fingers or tongue to explore each other's bodies. Get a feel for what feels good, and then slowly increase the intensity and pressure of your movements when you know both of you are ready. You can experiment with different types of touches—light feathery strokes versus firm pinches, for example.
Once your bodies are warm enough, you can go ahead and grab the lube from your drawer…and put a lot of it since the anus doesn't have self-lubricating properties like a vagina has, as an example. Don't be scared of getting messy but in case you're iffy about it then adding a towel on the bed can help catch those excess lube and keep your bed relatively unscathed.
Once you're all slick, then you can either have your fingers make a comeback and loosen up the hole with careful motions or slowly insert a small butt plug to help get used to the feeling of being loose before diving into anal.
Then before you really put your penis, strap or dildo in, make sure to establish a safe word to make it easier and effective to let each other know when you'd like to stop. After all, it's important to feel good in sex and as a couple, you have to be constantly aware of that!
Who can do Pegging?
If you're a woman who is comfortable with your own body and wants to experiment, then pegging is for you. If you're a woman who's not particularly in touch with your own desires or preferences, then pegging isn't going to work for you—but we'll get into the specifics of that soon enough.
If both partners are interested in trying pegging out, it's best if they talk about what kind of experience they want from it before moving forward: Do they prefer missionary? Are there other positions that would be more comfortable? Is there anything else (like toys) that could improve their experience?
What does pegging feel like for men?
The first thing you should know about pegging is that it feels like a tight fit for both the man and woman. However, this doesn't mean that it's uncomfortable or painful for either of them!
In fact, most men enjoy being pegged because of how intense the experience can be for them. You'll want to remember this when you're thinking about what positions might work best for your partner and how long each one should last before switching roles (more on that later).
What does pegging feel like for women to peg their partners?
Like anything with sex, it only sounds intimidating but it feels oh-so good – just like pegging! While it may not be everyone's cup of tea, other people do enjoy taking part in this rather unique way of pleasure. There's a few reasons as to why: maybe they like the prospect of doing something different, or the thrill of something new. Maybe they love a challenge because it ignites their competitiveness in bed, and so many others! The bottomline is that when you're exploring the realm of sex, you shouldn't be so closed off to pegging so soon, but if you're reading this feeling ready to partake in it, keep on reading to see the perfect positions for pegging!
What are the perfect positions for pegging?
A word of advice: everyone has different preferences when figuring out how your bodies tangle together in bed so it's important to assess which positions you both perceive to be comfortable to do before you get to experimenting in bed. It's going to be a long process but be patient with yourself and your partner – there's a lot of positions out there so there's basically no need to rush in finding something that works for both of you.
When you've chosen one or a few positions, the next thing to do is to get comfy! Take a deep breath, trust each other and know that no matter what happens, things will turn out incredibly spicy and fun!
Once you're comfortable, start by kissing each other. Kissing can be a great way to get into it and make sure both of you are feeling good about the situation. After kissing, try touching each other in different ways. You can start with some light touching around the stomach area or chest; this will let your partner know that they are not alone in what they want out of this experience.
There are a lot of positions to choose from when it comes to pegging. With Bad Girls Bible, here's a list of the best ones:
The Cowgirl
This position is a beginner-friendly option that doesn't require any straddling or balancing, which can be challenging for those new to the experience. The receiving partner simply sits on the lap of the giving partner and can hold onto something comfortable like a pillow or chair. The giving partner can then penetrate the receiving partner from behind. This position allows for deeper penetration compared to other positions, as the giving partner is not bending over as much.
The Doggy
This is similar to the cowgirl in terms of doability because it only requires the receiving partner to be on all fours and the giving partner to kneel behind them. This position makes it easy to access the vagina or anus and consequently makes it uncomplicated for the penis to penetrate. But when it comes to pegging, there's a slight challenge involved since you are dealing with a toy, and a highly sensitive area that is prone to injury if done incorrectly. What the receiving partner can do is to kneel on a sex pillow and increase height to make it convenient for the giving partner to insert the sex toy (whether an anal plug like our Red Gem Metal Butt Plug or anal vibrator like our Corkscrew) or a strap (like our Joji).
The Amazon
From here on, the positions get a little bit more complicated because the Amazon's for the ones who are willing to tap into their acrobatic side. This will have the giving partner lying down on their back, with their knees pulled towards their chest while the receiving partner sits on their thighs. Doing the Amazon provides a refreshing experience for pegging because it takes inspiration from riding but also gives you the thrill because you're hanging by the edge – literally.
The Butterfly
The Butterfly position is so great because it allows the receiving partner to lie down with their legs bent at the waist, while the giving partner stands on the floor at the edge of the bed. The receiving partner rests their hips against your shoulders, which lifts them off the bed so that the both of you can go as deep as possible when pegging.
The Turtle
The Turtle is a position that lets you feel closer to your partner when pegging. To do it, the receiving will kneel on the bed with their knees on the outside and one arm reaching back around their legs. On the other hand, the giver kneels behind them with their knees on the outside and one arm reaching back around theirs as well. Think of this as a doggy combined with dual masturbation because both of your hands stimulate the receiving partner's vagina while the giving partner's free hand does the pegging.
The Burning Man
This one burns in the best way because the receiving partner is bent over the table while the giving partner is positioned standing behind them. The both of you could spice things up first by dipping into penetration before moving forward to your giving partner pegging the receiving partner with a toy or a strap.
The Sandwich
In pegging, the Sandwich position gives you the best chance of making eye contact with your partner. The receiving partner lies back and brings their knees up toward their chest while holding on to the giving partner. Meanwhile, the giving either uses a toy or a strap on to slide between their partner's legs and grab the back of their thighs, which they can use for leverage while moving.
The Back Seat Driver
This position mainly refers to the giving partner sitting behind the receiving partner on a chair, making it look like while the receiving partner may be in front and in control of the wheel, the giving partner is actually the one calling the shots because they're penetrating you from behind with a toy or strap on.
The Superwoman
Now, we love a height difference, but if it poses a great challenge to your pegging adventures, then maybe the Superwoman could swoop in to help. Have the receiving partner lie on their stomach with their legs hanging off the edge of the bed and have the giving partner stand next to the bed between the receiving partner's legs and hold them by the thighs, hips, or waist. See what feels best before moving on to peg the night away.
The Bounce
Last but not the least, The Bounce will have the couple literally bouncing for hours because this is like riding but the receiving partner's back is faced towards the giving partner, and the receiving partner's legs are bent to give their hips leverage for the giving partner to penetrate.
If you've always wanted to try pegging but didn't know how, here are some tips.
If you're new to pegging, it's best to start slowly and with a sex toy that is comfortable for both of you. Use a harness if possible, because this will help ensure your partner doesn't experience any discomfort or pain during penetration. When choosing a toy for yourself, think about what feels best—and try out different kinds until you find one that works best for both of you! You can also use lubricant such as silicone lube (which has been approved by the FDA) or water-based lube; however these are not always safe options when using latex condoms because they may cause cracking over time due to friction against certain fabrics like leather or vinyl flooring surfaces which may damage them beyond repair if left untreated longer than recommended intervals between cleaning sessions."
Pegging FAQ
How do you bring it up?
Bringing this topic up is a lot like buying your first house. It's an opportunity for both of you to build trust, intimacy, and open communication with each other. You might not always be able to just drop something like that on someone without them feeling awkward or uncomfortable (and if they do feel uncomfortable then it's probably best not to tell them). Some people prefer being more direct; others want some space before they can fully process what being pegged really means. Whatever works best with YOUR partner - make sure that whatever method you use, there are no secrets between the two of YOURSELF and YOUR PARTNER in terms of how comfortable YOU feel about this subject!
Aftercare:
After some time has passed following your pegging experience (or maybe even after many!), try having sex again but this time with minimal direct contact between genitals - try making eye contact instead! This can also help build trust between partners so that when things heat up again later down the road...they'll know exactly what THEY'RE doing next time around too :)
Conclusion
So, there you have it. Pegging is a great way to spice up your sex life and give your partner an amazing experience. It doesn't matter who you are or how experienced with sex you are—with these tips and positions, anything is possible!
