Mutual masturbation, a mixture of partnered and solo play, is truly underrated. There are so many benefits. Like, it can be accomplished in the same room or via Facetime, making it a great way to show your partner how you like to be stimulated. And since it can be done from separate homes, it's also a great way to sexually connect during a pandemic that's keeping lovers apart.
Here's why you should try mutual masturbation today:
1. Get What You Want!
You know your body better than anyone else. And perhaps you have a partner who's still learning your body. Having them watch you in the throws of ecstasy will allow them to see what you really love, how you achieve climax, and how sexy you look while doing it.
It also gives you the same opportunity to view your partner to see what they like, and how they achieve their best pleasure.
2. The Sights and Sounds
When you’re watching someone pleasuring themselves, it’s a treat for all of the senses. You get to see them in their heighten state of arousal, and hear the erotic sounds they make when they’re enjoying every second it. This, in turn, can create even more sexual energy and arousal for you and your partner.
Think of it as your very own personal erotica, one that involves someone you find incredibly attractive, powerful, and sexy.
3. Embrace Vulnerability
Some may argue that being vulnerable is a bad thing, like a sign of weakness. In actuality, it’s vulnerability that brings about trust and increases intimacy. In fact, according to Marianne Brandon, Ph.D, sexual vulnerability is a key element of great sex.
Being sexually vulnerable means breaking barriers between partners, and it’s the act of truly showing our most authentic self, creating more tender and intense moments. The mixture of vulnerability, excitement, arousal, and pleasure is a powerful recipe for even more sensuality and eroticism.
4. Indulge in Kink
Another reason why mutual masturbation is amazing, is because it allows you to experiment and explore your more voyeuristic and exhibitionist side.
And for those who aren’t familiar with the lingo, voyeurism is when one gains sexual pleasure from seeing others naked or engaged in sexual activity. Exhibitionism is when one gains sexual pleasure from others seeing them naked or engaged in sexual activity.
It’s the ability to indulge in the best of both worlds—experiencing self-pleasure whilst enjoying the view.
5. Bring Sex Toys into the Bedroom
One of the best ways to introduce toys into the bedroom is during mutual masturbation. If you feel nervous to discuss using sex toys together, this is the easiest non-verbal way in which to initiate the conversation. Picture you or your partner holding a sleek and powerful pleasure product that is clearly increasing arousal. Doesn’t it sound titillating?
And after you’ve had your solo partnered fun, you can have a look at a few sex toys for couples, like the Le Couplet, which is inserted in such a way that both partners can feel the powerful bliss.
6. Go the Distance
Whether you’re going long distance or you’re social distancing, the art of mutual masturbation is the fact that it can be enjoyed anywhere. You and your partner could schedule a (or have an impromptu) seductive video chat or phone call to enjoy mutual masturbation. Of course, no matter where you are, consent from both parties is always mandatory!