How To Use A Dildo? An Ultimate Guide

Let’s be honest, a huge chunk of people didn’t grow up with a safe, open place to talk and learn about sex.

Unless you were born a sexpert, you probably have also been searching for a "How to use a dildo? An ultimate guide" to learn all about toys and techniques. On top of that, talking about sex can be a bit awkward, and pausing and asking questions can feel even worse! That’s why open conversations and learning how to use sex toys—especially a lifelike dildo or realistic dildo—can feel overwhelming at first.

The good news is that you're not alone, and you’re definitely not doing it “wrong.” Dildos are one of the most popular adult toys for couples and solo players alike, and they’ve been around for way longer than most people realize. This guide breaks everything down in a fun, safe and judgment-free way—from choosing the right dildo to creative positions and beginner-friendly techniques.

Whether you’re brand new or just want to level up your play, join Honey Play Box as the brand dives into the world of dildos!

What Is a Dildo, Really?

A dildo is a non-vibrating (or sometimes thrusting) penetrative sex toy designed for vaginal or anal use. While they’re having a major modern glow-up for the digital age, dildos have been a part of life for a very long time.

Researchers from Columbia University report that a carved stone dildo discovered in a German cave dates back 28,000 years—yes, Ice Age humans were already on board. Dildos also appear in ancient Egyptian art and were widely used in Greece, where soldiers gave their partners olisboi (polished leather dildos) before leaving for war.

Translation? Humans have always loved pleasure and used their resources to find innovative ways to enjoy themselves!

How to Choose the Right Dildo (Without Overthinking It)

The modern sex toy world is huge, from different shapes, sizes, materials, functions—it can feel overwhelming! Luckily for you, Honey Play Box has made a list of how to narrow it down.

1. Choose Your Material

According to MindBodyGreen, these are the most body-safe and popular dildo materials:

Silicone

Soft, flexible, and skin-like, silicone is ideal for any realistic dildo feel. It’s non-porous, body-safe, and perfect for beginners.

Stainless Steel

Sleek, firm, and ultra-hygienic. This material is great for precision and temperature play.

Borosilicate Glass

Strong, smooth, and non-toxic. Glass dildos are fantastic for pressure control and sensation play.

Lucite (Acrylic Resin)

Very firm and commonly used for Kegel and pelvic floor training.

2. Size Matters… But Comfort Matters More

Bigger isn’t always better. The best dildo is the one that feels good to you. Sexologist known as Dr. Carol Queen told Glamour that it’s perfectly normal to enjoy only part of a dildo’s length and that its important to take note of what already feels good to your body rather than choosing the biggest one!

Start smaller if you’re new, and remember that you’re in control.

3. Pick Your Function

Today’s dildos do way more than just exist.

Thrusting Dildos (For Maximum Realism)

If you love realism, a lifelike dildo with thrusting motion is a game-changer. These toys often have features such as a suction cup base, veins, and natural movement plus adjustable speeds that never get tired.

Featured Thrusting Picks from Honey Play Box:

1. NOCTURA – App-controlled thrusting & vibrating silicone dildo with a dual-layer feel and hands-free suction base. NOCTURA has voice control mode, personalized patterns, and long-distance play, making it ideal for couples who want realism plus tech-driven fun!

2. KENZO – This realistic thrusting suction cup dildo comes with an extra-long 8.5-inch insertable shaft, 9 thrusting and vibrating modes, and full Honey Play Box app control for satisfying all your intense needs.

3. IDALIS – A 3-in-1 (Thrusting, vibrating and rotating) powerful stimulator is designed to simulate realistic penetration and features a firm suction cup base, remote control play, and ultra-soft body-safe silicone.

Dildo Machines

Dildo machines are for those who are tired of making their hands sore and are ready to take things to the next level. With adjustable angles, powerful motion, and endless positioning options, it's no wonder that dildo machines are the most popular with experienced users.

Honey Play Box Machine-Style Option:

NOCTURA also shines in hands-free and mounted play scenarios thanks to its strong suction base and remote control features, making it perfect for users who want machine-style intensity without bulky hardware.

Fantasy Dildos (Because Why Not?)

Fantasy dildos bend reality and take creativity to a whole new level! Think dragons, tentacles, and imaginative textures!

Fantasy Favorite from Honey Play Box:

LAVA – A fantasy tentacle-shaped, girthy dildo with vivid colors, sensual ribs and suckers, ultra-flexible body-safe silicone, and a suction cup base for hands-free rides. Perfect for adventurous users who want texture, stretch, and visual excitement.

How to Use a Dildo (Beginner-Friendly & Fun)

If you’re visual learner, these videos are great starting points:

• Beginner tutorial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY0YT4AgHis
  
• 5 creative ways to use a dildo with one of our collaborators: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8HnirrlUaI

And now, let’s break it down.

Warm Up First

Arousal matters. Explore and touch yourself in ways you enjoy and feel free to use lubricant—especially with silicone or glass toys!

Try Different Motions

• Deep thrusting: Best with firm dildos and vibrations
• Short & shallow strokes: Targets the most sensitive internal areas
• Rocking motion: Position the dildo at different angles and experiment with movement for deep pressure
• Turning/cranking: Try rotating gently to stimulate a wider area
• G-spot milking: Press upward during slow in-and-out movement for G-spot stimulation

The “Just Hold It There” Trick

To achieve this pleasurable trick, insert the dildo and keep it still while focusing on external stimulation. The filling sensation can intensify pleasure dramatically and allows you to continue exploring your body.

Temperature Play (Advanced but Fun)

Glass and steel dildos temperatures can quickly adjust to warm or cool water, but be sure to always test the temperature on your hand first before inserting.

Suction Cup Play: Reddit’s Favorite Hack

A popular Reddit user shared this tip:

“If it’s a suction cup dildo and your walls (or doors) are flat/smooth enough you can suction it there and back up onto it then move forward/backward on it for the ‘thrusting’ while you’re standing up.”

Using a Dildo for Anal Play

Dildos can be used anally as long as they have a flared base. Start slow, use plenty of lube, and never rush.

A flared base is the bottom part of an insertable object that widens out, which adds stability and prevents objects from getting stuck inside the area that it is inserted in.

Double Penetration Ideas

For experienced users:

1. Dildo + butt plug is the perfect combination
2. Two dildos (vaginal & anal)
3. Dildo + fingers
4. Partnered combinations (with consent and comfort)

Best Positions to Try

• Lying on your back: Pull knees toward chest for deeper sensation
• Face down: Pillow under hips improves angle
• Side-lying: Makes the dildo feel fuller
• Sitting or standing up: Great for suction cup dildos
• Riding: Attach to wall or floor for hands-free play

Changing positions keeps things exciting, especially for adult toys for couples!

There’s no “right” way to use a dildo, only your way that you enjoy. Whether you prefer a realistic dildo, a lifelike dildo, or a fantasy piece, pleasure is about comfort, and listening to your body.

This guide isn’t a rulebook, it’s an invitation to stay curious and explore the beautiful side of the toy world. Don't be scared to try new positions or experiment with sensation, and most importantly, have fun with it!

FAQ: How To Use A Dildo?

Q1. Can I use other at home objects as a dildo?

A. Yes! People oftentimes use objects they already have at home, such as hairbrush handles! Just be sure to properly clean before and after use and stop using if problems arise.

Q2. Can I insert an object with no flared base?

A. Unless you are externally stimulating yourself, its best to not insert the object as there is a chance that it may get stuck or lost inside, making it extremely difficult to retrieve!

Q3. Are dildos good for beginners?

A. Dildos are excellent for users of all experience levels, especially beginners. Honey Play Box recommends understanding what your body likes in order to choose the right toy for you.

Q4. What material should I get for my dildo?

A. There are various different materials, such as glass and silicone. It is important to research and read guides such as this one to understand which material is best for your body.

Q5. How do I find the best dildo?

A. Honey Play Box has some of the best dildos with different features and materials, perfect for all user types!