For this guide, we recommend the Gia, a vibrator designed to focus on your G-spot that’s user-friendly and packs a powerful punch with 12 vibration patterns. It’s ergonomically designed and curved specifically to make finding the G-spot easily on the first insert, so it’s perfect for beginners to vibrators. At the same time, however, its vibration patterns are powerful and unique, so it’ll keep you busy for a long time until you’re no longer a beginner.

If you want something a little more advanced, we also recommend the Idalis. It’s the Ferrari of dildos, minus the outrageous price. The Idalis is a 9 inch, remote-controlled vibrator that has a suction base. It doesn’t just vibrate, it thrusts and rotates, simulating real intercourse with its 7 vibration styles, 5 thrusting patterns, and 5 rotating patterns. The fact that it’s remote-controlled means that your hands and wrists will never get sore, no matter how many times you come.

 

2. Set the mood:

 

Now that you’ve chosen a vibrator, it’s time to set the mood. Remember, using a vibrator is meant to be an experience. This isn’t just masturbation, it’s a self-pleasure session. You should treat your vibrator the way you’d treat a massage chair or a neck massager. After all, these are devices that were designed with your relaxation, pleasure, and stress relief in mind.

So, light some scented candles, draw the blinds, dim the lights, take off all your clothes, slip into your favorite bathrobe, hop into bed, and let’s get started!

 

3. Foreplay:

 

Foreplay is important for any sexual encounter, and using a vibrator is no different. You want to be aroused so that insertion is smooth and enjoyable.

Do whatever gets you hot under the collar. Put on your favorite romantic music, play some adult movies, or read your favorite erotica.

You can also use your vibrator to get yourself aroused by touching it to your nipples and the outside of your vagina, tickling your sensitive skin with it.

Once you’re hot and bothered (in the best way) it’s time to get to the good part.

 

4. Insert the vibrator:

 

Adele - Clit Licking Tongue Vibrator with G Spot Stimulator

 

Now it’s time to actually insert the vibrator into your vagina. If this sounds like a crude description for what you’ll be doing, you’re right. This step is about so much more than just inserting something into your vagina, this step is about making this act as erotic, enjoyable, and relaxing as possible.

So, like always, try to take things slow. Use the tip of the vibrator to massage the lips of your vagina. Work up to inserting it by teasing, tickling, and massaging your way there.

Imagine that your vibrator is attached to someone that makes you hot and bothered. Work from the outside in, massaging, tickling, and stroking your way into your most sensitive regions.

Once you’re inside, wriggle the vibrator around the entrance of your vagina, probing gently and massaging the outer lips from inside.

 

5. Penetrate by moving in and out:

 

Like always, you want to move slowly and purposely. Now it’s time to penetrate past the opening of your vagina. You want to start going deeper, creating the pleasing sensation of being filled. But don’t go too deep yet. Stop as soon as you feel any tightness and then retreat slowly until the vibrator is all the way out once again.

Remember the place where you felt the first inkling of tightness. Now, insert the vibrator once again until you get to that place and then pull out once again.

You can repeat this as many times as is enjoyable to you and you can speed up or slow then the penetration or extraction.

Related: Female Masturbation 101

 

6. Prop the vibrator up with some pillows and ride it:

 

Now that you’ve gotten the hang of penetration, it’s time to ride your vibrator. Use a few pillows to create a sturdy (but comfortable) base for your vibrator. Then, ease yourself onto it and position your vagina so that the vibrator penetrates it slowly as you come to lie on top of it.

Remember to use your hands to steady yourself and also to hold onto the vibrator as you lower yourself on it. You want to keep it straight, sturdy, and supported as it starts to support your weight.

Penetrate until you’re comfortable and start moving up and down as the vibrator works on you from inside. Ride your vibrator as if you were having intercourse with someone it was attached to. Remember not to jump up and down too harshly or too dramatically, you don’t want to penetrate any harder than you’re comfortable with and you don’t want to penetrate any further than you intended.

Keep in mind the penetration you were doing by guiding the vibrator with your hand, and try to replicate it when you’re riding the vibrator yourself.

 

7. Use your imagination:

 

Sometimes, the best sexual fantasies come from our own minds. Think of someone special. Maybe the ex that got away, maybe your crush from work, maybe your celebrity crush.

This is your fantasy, and the time for your personal pleasure. The sky’s the limit when it comes to your sexual fantasies.

Now that you’ve focused on that special someone, imagine a scenario where the two of you are together. Maybe you’re in a hotel room in Paris with a view to the Eiffel Tower, maybe you’re on a beach in Bali, maybe you’re in a limo going to a red carpet premiere.

Take the time to focus on the details. Imagine this person with you. Imagine what they’re wearing, what they smell like, what they taste like. Imagine their touch on your body and their lips on yours. Feel the heat of their breath on your skin and the warmth of their skin on yours.

 

8. Increase the speed:

 

Now that things are getting hot and heavy, why not speed up?

Everyone has a natural rhythm when it comes to arousal and stimulation. You know your own body and its needs better than anyone else, and you’ll feel this rhythm instinctually when you’re in control of your own stimulation.

You’ll find that, as your arousal and pleasure increase, so does your desire for things to move faster. This means that your arousal and pleasure are nearing their peak.

You’ll start to want to be filled deeper, faster, and more completely, and this will translate into you riding the vibrator deeper, faster, and harder.

So speed things up…

 

9. Decrease the speed:

 

And then slow them down without stopping. Just as you’re nearing climax, it’s best to start to decrease the speed of your stimulation. Tease yourself. Deny yourself pleasure just long enough for you to crave it and relish in it when it comes back.

This can be a fun game for you now, delaying the ultimate satisfaction when it’s closest. There are some variations of this that are referred to as "edging," but the idea remains the same. If you start to decrease the stimulation when you’re closer to the climax, your craving for it will increase and so will the pleasure when you finally give in to that intense craving.

 

10. Tease your clit:

 

Now it’s time to use your ultimate pleasure button. You’ve been building up to this, gaining pleasure, speed, and arousal as the session has gone on.

But now you really need to up the pleasure. Use the tip of your vibrator to tease the area around your clit and, working slowly, and moving closer and closer, place the tip of the vibrator on your clit and stimulate it directly.

You should now be experiencing intense sexual pleasure, arousal, and stimulation.

 

11. Hit your G-spot:

 

Now, insert your vibrator back into your vagina and move it toward your G-spot. The G-spot is located about an inch into your vagina, along the inner wall and toward your belly button. You won’t have to penetrate deeply with your vibrator, you just have to find the right spot.

Trust us, you’ll know when you hit it.

Once you’ve found it, remember to work around it, toward it, and into it. Play within your G-spot’s vicinity, don’t just focus on the spot itself. Explore this area by teasing, tickling, and massaging it gently. There’s a lot of pleasure to be found here, and there are many ways to experience it.

Familiarize yourself with this area and with the kind of pleasure you experience while using different motions, depths of penetration, kinds of stimulation, etc.

You might discover that your G-spot is hard to find or that you feel some numbness when you start stimulating it. This is normal, every G-spot is different and there are different ways to stimulate each one.

Many books, movies, and online posts have misinformed people about the G-spot. Some people are under the impression that G-spots are incredibly sensitive and that, if touched, they will make a person orgasm instantly.

This is far from the truth. In reality, the G-spot is a general area that, when stimulated, may greatly increase arousal. It isn’t an instant orgasm button and, unlike some people believe, the "goal" of sex isn’t to find the G-spot and hit it.

 

12. Use your vibrator’s settings:

 

Now that we’ve covered most of the important areas, motions, and fantasies that you can perform to achieve greater arousal and pleasure while using a vibrator, it’s important to remember the basics before we reach the end.

You’re using a vibrator. Not a dildo. The main difference is in the name. A vibrator vibrates. A dildo doesn’t have to vibrate.

If you’ve bought a vibrator, you’ve paid for vibration settings that have been specifically designed to increase arousal and stimulation. So let’s get your money’s worth.

Most vibrators have at least 4 vibration settings that range in strength from off to mild to medium to heavy, and then cycle back to off once again. Some vibrators have a power button, while others just cycle between the settings when a button or input is hit.

So, before finishing any self-pleasure session with a vibrator, you should make sure that you’ve used it to its full potential.

Cycle through the vibration setting or patterns once again, trying each of them out on the outside of your vagina and then just past the opening. Don’t just set it to the highest vibration setting and go straight for your clit or G-spot, this setting might be too strong and it could hurt you in your most sensitive areas. Try out every setting in areas that are not as sensitive and then test them out in sensitive areas.

Once you’ve found the highest setting that you’re comfortable with in your G-spot and clit, use it to stimulate both of these areas and give yourself the orgasm that has been building this entire time!

 

 Bottom Line

 

Now you’ve used your vibrator to enjoy an amazing orgasm!

Why not go for another one?

You can always read this guide again and relive this wonderful moment as many times as you want, provided that your vibrator has enough charge.

 

 

Written by: Fernando, L

Honey Play Box Editorial Team