How To Use Sex Toys During Sex

How To Use Sex Toys During Sex

Sex is often involving two people. Yes, there are times when others can get involved. But for the sake of this article, we'll focus on just two people.

The topic will focus on how you and your partner can use sex toys during the act itself. We'll talk about how beneficial it can be for both you and your partner. Before we get into the how, we'll briefly explain why it could be a good idea to include them into the mix.

Without further ado, let's get started and see if this inspires you enough to take things to the next level between you and your partner.

Why use sex toys?

Sex toys may not be for everyone. And sex can just be sex without them. But for those not sure about including them, let's state the case why it might be a good idea.

Needless to say, people need some kind of stimulation. Especially when it comes to achieving an orgasm. People with vaginas will require stimulation of the clitoris in order to get that done.

Do you need a type of sex toy to get off via the clitoris? It's not necessary. But a vibrating toy can certainly help.

This can either be done by yourself or with a partner (even during sex). A vibrator has gotten off many people many times. Now, if you are someone who can get off with only that, not to worry.

Some people can't get off without toys. It might be for that reason why using sex toys during sex might be a good idea. Don't feel self-conscious about getting your partner off.

Each person is different. To be fair, it might be a problem that existed before you and your partner ever got together. So there's no point in kicking yourself.

What type of sex toys can be used?

Now, we're getting into the fun stuff. There are plenty of sex toys that can prove itself useful during sex. Here's a list of the following that can be used and why:

  • Vibrators: Yes, we've already talked about them in part. But we didn't get into the specific kinds. You have the insertable wands, the insertables such as the bullets, and the rabbits. These come in different shapes, sizes, and designs. These can be used for penetrative orgasms. And yes, you could create the legendary blended orgasm (clitoral and g-spot) with a little practice.
  • Dildos and plugs: These can be used for either vaginal or anal penetration. Like vibrators, they come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. They can be single ended or double ended. Whatever the personal needs or preferences are, there's one of these toys for that.
  • Couple-centric toys: These toys include a couple's vibrators. These can be designed to provide stimulation for both partners. Meaning it can be inserted into the vagina, giving sensation to the clitoris and the g-spot. And yes, it also gives sensation to a partner's penis as well. Did we mention at the same time? Now that's mind-blowing if we say so. Bonus read: check out the video review of Rahim and see how to use a sex machine as a couple.
  • BDSM toys: So maybe you want to take it up a notch with bondage. Not a problem. There's different kinds of toys and accessories such as blindfolds and bondage tapes.

What to consider before using sex toys during sex?

Sex is something you and your partner can enjoy. It's also a by-product of a healthy relationship. Speaking of which, so is communication.

The first thing you need to do is see if your partner is up for it. You can explain the reasons why it might be a good idea. After you two are on the same page, it's time to move on to the next stage.

Next, you two can shop for toys together. This can build up excitement between the two of you. At the same time, this will give you two the opportunity of what each of you enjoy.

Even better, you two can also talk about mutual enjoyments. You'll look through a catalog and point out which toys look interesting and enticing to use. A good place to start is online.

Yes, it might be embarrassing to be seen in a sex shop. And we understand. You can rest easy knowing that the Internet exists for one of many reasons.

One of them is discreet shopping. However, if you're both feeling bold - a visit to a sex shop might be an adventure. Consider your mutual comfort level in terms of the shopping stage.

Experiment by yourself

It might be a smart idea to use it on yourself first. But, there's a major caveat: don't use it on your genitals. Yes, we know that's disappointing.

But you want to play with it on your skin. Then, you can work your way throughout your body (except for the obvious areas). One more thing, if it's an anal toy, double check to see if it has a flared base.

The reason? So it doesn't get stuck there.

Use it on yourself

Next, you can use it on yourself. This will give you a good opportunity to finally feel it out. If you're happy, then it might be included in sex.

It would be wise to clean it afterwards. This will give your partner a chance to try it out themselves. Or when the time comes to ask them to use it on you, it's clean and ready to go.

Consider edging

Edging is getting close to orgasm, but stopping short of it. Using toys to get this done can be a great idea. So why not give it a try?

The good news is that you can use this with the switches on the toys. Or if they are remote operated, do a good ol' fashioned start and stop.

Final Thoughts

Sex toys can have its uses. Sure, it might be fun to use in a solo session. But when used during sex with a partner, it's even better.

Consider visiting Spices of Lust blog to get more kinky sex ideas.

You'd be surprised how much a partner might appreciate it when toys are introduced. But don't utilize the element of surprise. Talk to them first before any toys are introduced during the big act.

Honeyland Author

An engineer with a huge love for sex toys & tacos. Relentlessly working to change the sex space to be more user-friendly, educational & inclusive. Together with his wife Leja, Luka is a creator of several notable things which include an educational sex blog - Spices of Lust, the first ADA-ready and fully illustrated sex shop - The Sex Shed, and a brand of fantasy toys - Raw Love Studio. When he isn't surrounded by sex toys, he usually spends his time riding a bike, hiking, or cooking.