Just like no two leaves are the same, all penises are unique, and each of them is good in its own way. Body parts come in all shapes and sizes, and penises are no exception. According to studies, 95% of penises fall into the average range, and 85% of women were satisfied with their partner’s penis. So whether you have a penis that’s on the larger side, the smaller side, one that’s girthy, or one that’s thin, don’t stress too much about it!
"You can make it work and have fun in the bedroom, no matter the penis shape or size" Joshua Gonzalez, MD, says. He’s a urologist and sexual health advisor. According to him, penises may differ in appearance, but when it comes to great sex, what matters most is not the penis size or shape, but whether the person the penis is attached to knows how to use it!
There are certain sexual positions and skills for every penis size and shape, and all of them can lead to satisfying sex and mind-blowing orgasms for both parties. Without any further ado, let’s dive into the fascinating world of Penis-ology!
Penis Anatomy
Comparing your penis to another person’s can lead to nothing but anxiety and feelings of self-doubt, but it’s helpful that we understand the anatomy of the penis.
Every penis has four important parts:
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The urethra:This small vessel runs through the center of the penis and ends at the tip. Urine and ejaculate move through the urethra and exit through its opening.
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The glans:The glans, also known as head of the penis, is located (you guessed it) at the tip of the penis.
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Foreskin:This is the stretchy outer layer of skin that covers the glans. Circumcision, a common operation performed after birth, removes this part of the penis. This is why many penises lack this foreskin.
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Erectile tissue:Most of the penis is made out of erectile tissue. The penis consists of three columns of erectile tissue that are wrapped in connective tissue and covered in skin. Most of the time, this tissue has empty pockets. During arousal, these pockets become engorged with blood, causing an erection.
Penis Terminology
Let’s take a look at the terms most commonly used when talking about the penis:
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Length: The length of the penis is generally measured from the pubic bone to the tip of the glans, along the top side of the penis.
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Girth:Girth is a measurement of the circumference of the penis when it’s erect.
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Curve:This refers to the direction a penis points to when it's erect. Penises tend to curve slightly when erect, and aren’t a straight line.
Penis Size - Does Size Really Matter?
First, Let’s Stop the Penis Shame! Some people are under the impression that the bigger the penis, the more desirable it is. Others believe that a bigger penis leads to better sex, or to increased satisfaction during orgasms.
"Penis shame" generally refers to negative feelings caused by doubt over a penis’s size. Comparison between one’s own penis and another’s, unhealthy standards caused by watching porn, toxic masculinity, harmful societal expectations, and many other factors all contribute to negative thoughts and penis shame.
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45% of people with penises wish they had a bigger
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Around 85 percent of people with penises overestimate what the average penis size is.
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A study of over 15,000 people found an average flaccid length of 3.6 inches.
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A recent 2020 study revealed the average length of an erect penis is between 4.59 inchesand 5 inches.
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95% of penises fall into the average range.
More Facts!
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It doesn’t matter how big it is, what matters is how you use it!
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The G-spot is located 3-5 inches into the vaginal canal.
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The prostate is located 2 inches into the rectum.
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If you want to make the bedroom more fun, use a sex toy (dildo, strap-on, vibrator) for maximum pleasure!
Related: 5 Problems Caused by Having a Big Dick, and How to Fix Them
What is the average penis size?
Length
A study of more than 15,500 men from around the world found that penis size doesn’t vary much. The average length of a flaccid (not erect) penis is 3.61 inches, and the average length of an erect penis is 5.16 inches. Only 5% of men have erect penises longer than 6.3 inches and only 5% have an erect penis shorter than 4 inches (verywellhealth).
Girth
In that same study of more than 15,500 men, the researchers found that the average girth of a flaccid penis is 3.66 inches, while the average girth of an erect penis is 4.59 inches. The reality is that most penises fall into a common range around 5.19 inches in length and 4.59 inches in girth when erect (verywellhealth).
How to measure penis?
Length
Place your thumb and index finger on the coronal groove of your penis and pull it to fully stretch it. Now use a ruler or soft measuring tape to measure the distance from the root of the pubic symphysis to the urethral opening at the head of the penis.
Girth
Simply wrap the measuring tape around the thickest part of the shaft of the erect penis.
How to make your penis bigger?
While nonsurgical methods of lengthening the penis are popular online, most scientific research into the matter concludes that there is little to no evidence that they work. Penis lengthening surgery is painful, risky, and often causes deformation of the penis. However, there are a few techniques and products that actually help boost penis performance.
Penis Massage
Penis massages can help control ejaculation and regulate libido in order to make sex last longer. You might think that "penis massage" is just a fancier way of saying "masturbation," but you’d be wrong. Masturbation always ends in ejaculation, but penis massages keep things at the end of orgasm for as long as possible without reaching climax.
Check out How to Do Penis Massage? An Ultimate Guide to learn how to perform a relaxing penis massage!
Penis Pump - What is a Penis Pump?
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection strong enough to have sex. One of the most popular treatment options for ED is the use of penis pumps. A penis pump consists of a plastic cylinder that fits over the penis (which often includes a measuring gauge), a hand or electric pump attached to the cylinder, and a silicone ring that fits around the base of the penis once it’s erect. Some penis pumps come with interchangeable silicone sleeves designed for pleasure.
Do Penis Pumps Work?
Penis pumps work by creating a vacuum around the penis, causing blood to flow into it from around the body. This increased blood flow helps create a bigger and harder erection that lasts longer than usual.
A penis pump is a good treatment choice because, unlike medication and more extreme gadgets, penis pumps don’t have side effects. With practice and correct use, a majority of users report better sexual performance and more satisfying sex.
How to Use a Penis Pump?
In order to use a penis pump correctly:
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Place the plastic cylinder over your penis.
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Use the hand pump or electric pump to create a vacuum inside the cylinder and pump blood into the penis.
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When you have an erection, slip the silicone ring around the base of your penis. It will help you maintain the erection by keeping the blood flow inside the penis.
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Remove the penis pump. Now you have a harder erection than usual, and it will help you have a longer, more satisfying session of sexual intercourse.
Remember: Don't leave the constriction ring in place for more than 30 minutes — cutting off blood flow for too long could cause injury.
11 Different Penis Shape & Top Sex Positions
"Should penises be straight?" "Does my penis look weird?" "Are penises supposed to tilt to one side?"
These are a few common questions asked of search engines everywhere. You may have asked yourself similar questions, especially when you were going through puberty. Hopefully, you found out that penile curvatures are perfectly normal and completely benign, and they don’t make penetrative sex difficult.
A penis is made up of three columns of erectile tissue that act like empty pockets. When blood flows into these columns, the penis will bend toward the columns with the least amount of blood. This is perfectly normal, and will not affect sexual function or pleasure. Some penises curve left, others curve right. Some curve up, others curve down, and some don’t curve at all.
Remember, there’s no such thing as a "normal" penis shape. Each penis is different, and, whatever you get, it’s gonna look a little different than someone else’s.
Now, let’s take a look at a few penis shapes and recommend sexual positions based on them.
Curved Upward
Description: Also known as "Banana Type," this type of penis curves slightly upward when it’s erect. This kind of curvature is actually helpful for reaching the G-spot or A-spot.
Pro Tip: "For an upward curve, any position where partners face each other is going to perfectly align the penis with the natural curves of the vagina", says Darius Paduch, PhD, associate professor of urology at Weill Cornell Medical College.
If you have this penis shape, try the "Standing Missionary" sexual position. To try it, hold your partner up while bending backward and flex your knees, bouncing your partner up and down. By doing this, you will penetrate your partner deeply and reach their G-spot easily.
Curved Downward
Description: This type of penis curves slightly downward when it’s erect. Like the "Banana Type," this curvature also makes it easier to hit the right spots.
Pro Tip: "Rear-entry" positions (like "Doggy Style") are highly recommended for this type of penis. You should take advantage of the curvature and use it to penetrate deeply and toward the G-spot. If you’re feeling adventurous, give anal sex a try!
Related: A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex
C-Shaped
Description: This type of penis curves to the right or left when erect.
Pro tip: If you have this penis shape, we recommend the "T-Bone" sex position. To do it, lie down on your side while your partner lies on their back, and let them lay their legs over your hips.
Related: 5 Crazy Sex Positions
Straight
Description: A "straight" penis shape happens when all three columns of erectile tissue are of the same length, meaning that the blood flow is even. This is actually ideal, as there’s less of a chance for obstruction of blood flow in the penis, which also reduces the risk of premature ejaculation.
Pro Tip: A staight penis is able to reach the top of the vagina and stimulate the deep A-spot, even with the most vanilla of sex positions.
Lucky you! Just try any position that interests both you and your partner. If you really want to heat things up, grab a sex toy (or a few). While you’re penetrating your partner with your penis, stimulate their clitoris with a sex toy to make them come extra fast!
Large Base with Narrow Head
Description: This type of penis gets thicker gradually from head to root. This shape is usually seen in people with good physical fitness who are more likely to have erections faster. Once aroused, an erection can be achieved instantly, which helps reduce the risk of low performance.
Pro Tip: "Missionary Position" or "Cowgirl Position" are great for this type of penis. This penis’s thick base also makes stimulating a clitoris much easier. Anal sex is also great with this kind of penis, as its narrow head will make it easier to enter through the backdoor (but don’t forget the lube). You can also use a butt plug to stretch the sphincter before anal penetration.
Narrow Base with Large Head
Description: This penis has a narrow base, but gets thicker gradually from the base to its head. It’s also known as a "mushroom-shaped penis." A narrow penis base could lead to a slower erection time. Once the penis is erect, however, the blood flow is mostly concentrated in the glans, resulting in longer endurance.
Pro Tip: The "Missionary Position" is a great choice for this type of penis. Its large head increases friction on the clitoris, then it enters the vagina gently to stimulate the U-spot and then slips further into the G-spot, finally hitting the A-spot at the end. You can cover and stimulate all the erogenous spots in your partner’s vagina! The larger head might make entry a little difficult in the beginning, so we recommend lots of foreplay to make things go smoother. You can use vibrators to improve foreplay, and dual vibrators for both partners are great for double stimulation during intercourse.
Smaller-than-Average Length and Girth
Description: If you’re reading this guide, chances are that you fear that you’re in this category. Most people that have a penis are scared that they’re penis is "too small." This fear is a psychological barrier that’s often strong enough to deter them from approaching people they’re attracted to.
However, the truth is that there is no standard size for any penis. Penises grow and shrink and, like we mentioned before, 85% of people underestimate their own penis size. To add to this, measuring your penis wrong, or measuring it when you’ve gained weight, may lead you to believe your penis is smaller than it is. And, even if you measure it the right way and at the right time, stress and exhaustion could also cause your penis to appear smaller even when it’s erect.
Pro tip: The "Doggy Style" and "Face-to-Face Cowgirl" positions are both excellent choices for this type of penis if you want to penetrate deeply. You can make the Cowgirl position more intimate by sitting up instead of lying on your back, and you can support your body with your arms while doing so.
Related: 5 Must-try Sex Positions
Shorter-than-Average Length and Thick Girth
Description: Length isn’t a problem as long as you can get an erection. With the right position and the right moves, you can make sex satisfying for both you and your partner.
Pro Tip: Have your partner lie on their back and raise their legs or their hips so that you can penetrate more deeply.
Larger-than-Average Length and Girth
Description: Like we mentioned before, studies have determined that the average penis length (when erect) is 5.16 inches. These same studies have determined that, if your penis is over 6.3 inches when erect, you have a bigger penis than 95% of all men in the US (PsychologyToday). According to these studies, most women consider any penis over 7 inches as "too big" or "big enough to be uncomfortable."
Pro Tip: Take things slow and use a lot of lube. The "Missionary," "Spoon," and "Rear-Entry" positions are great for this penis shape.
Remember, if you have a big penis, don’t try fitting all of it inside a vagina or an anus. Trying to do so will cause discomfort for both your partner and yourself. Vaginal walls are delicate and can be torn or ruptured if not penetrated the right way. To address this problem, keep the following information in mind. The average length of an unstimulated vagina ranges from 2.75 inches long to around 3.25 inches long. The average length of a stimulated vagina ranges from 4.25 inches to about 4.75 inches. If you have a large penis, remember to use around ¾ of your penis length to penetrate by leaving a fourth of it outside.
Larger-than-Average Length and Thin Girth
