Female Masturbation 101

Let’s talk about sex, baby, let’s talk about you and me; whenever I think about sex, this song from salt-n-pepper comes to my mind, but really let’s talk about masturbation. This is such a taboo among some people, but contrary to what people might think masturbation (or touching yourself for sexual pleasure) is totally normal, regardless of whether you have sex with other people. Though not, masturbation has some health benefits as it releases serotonin and helps you achieve better sleep, mood, and stress relief, among other benefits.

Masturbation toy

Masturbating is totally normal, and it is okay to do it. Masturbation happens for different reasons: to relax, understand their bodies and their likes, release some steam, or merely because their partner is not around. However, most people simply do it because it feels good, and it does. It totally does, so you shouldn’t be ashamed of it. Some people masturbate frequently, others not so often, and some never do. Each person masturbates in a different way and for various reasons. Masturbation is very personal, and there is no "normal" way to do it.

Most people think that masturbating is something they shouldn’t do for many reasons. Some believe it will decrease their sexual appetize and affect their relationship with their partner, and some think it is a sin due to their beliefs or religion; some even feel like touching your body is not something good. Their go on their lives missing this fantastic experience out of fear of what others will think (as if others need to know about your business). Masturbation is neither wrong nor immoral. However, you may still hear messages that self-pleasure is "dirty" and "shameful." DO NOT listen to this and enjoy yourself to the fullest, but if you can’t get past these feelings, I strongly recommend you speak with someone you trust or even a therapist specializing in sexual health.

Is it okay to masturbate if you’re in a relationship?

Masturbating when you are in a relationship does not mean that your partner does not satisfy you. It definitely is. It’s a great way to learn what you like and what makes you orgasm. Also, afterward, you can show your partner what feels good for you. Talking about sex with your partner can make it more fun and strengthen your relationship. Some people masturbate simultaneously with their partner, as it is a way to have a previous game before the big performance.


Myths about masturbation

Many myths about masturbation are created to scare you into thinking that masturbating is terrible. The truth is that it is entirely safe.

Several common myths about masturbation have not been proven by scientific research.

For example, masturbation does not cause:

  • infertility

  • dehydration

  • hormonal imbalances

  • changes in the size or shape of the penis - breast

  • decreased sperm count

  • vision loss

  • acne

  • hairy palms

  • erectile dysfunction

  • low libido


This can be further from the truth, and you shouldn’t consider this when thinking about pleasing yourself. Masturbating is a great way to get to know your body. It is totally healthy and normal. Most people masturbate at some point in their life.


What are some tips and techniques that might help you reach those orgasms

  • Wash your hands before touching any erogenous zone.

  • Clean your sex toys. Suppose you don’t use condoms. If you don’t, bacteria can build up and cause infection. The best way to protect your sex toys is to use a condom that you can change every time the toy is passed from person to person or from one orifice to another - mouth, anus, or vagina—clean your sex toys before and after each use. Please read the toy’s instructions to find out how to clean it.

  • Don’t share sex toys with more than one partner without cleaning them first, and use new condoms each time. Be aware that sex toys can transmit STDs.

  • Don’t be afraid to use your fingers to stimulate your clitoris, vagina, g-spot, and anus. Explore every part of your body.

  • Use some tools, your fingers will be great as starters, but you can spice up the experience by using some toys, don’t forget to use a lubricant to reduce friction and enjoy it better.

  • Stimulate each part of your body, touch your ears and neck, and massage your breast. Every stimulation you can get helps.

  • Try watching some erotic videos or reading erotic books that can get you in the mood.

  • Try some positions, masturbate by lying down on your back or turn over and touch yourself lying on your stomach.

  • Try dry humping – using your hips to rub your vulva on a pillow, blanket, or other soft objects.

  • Don’t worry about reaching an orgasm. Focus on making yourself feel aroused and stimulated and exploring and enjoying your solo session rather than doing it for a goal.

    Wrote by: Kat A. 

    Honey Play Box Editorial Team