Tantric Masturbation: A Journey of Self-Exploration and Connection

What's the first thing that comes into mind when you hear the word "sex"? Maybe you'll immediately think of two people who love each other so much that their passion fuels nightly escapades under the covers. Maybe you'll also think about someone who may not be in a relationship but has such a good connection with themselves that it's a part of their routine to love themselves through the use of their own hands (and toys, if they fancy).

Both of these instances are sex. It's just that the more common between the two is that it's a dance between two people.There are so many articles and videos and posts talking about how to make the best out of partnered love-making but not as much with solo loving. It's time to change things because this article is all about tantric masturbation. Mind Body Green defines it as a practice that combines the principles of tantra with self-pleasure which aims to enhance sexual experiences, promote self-awareness, and foster a deeper connection with oneself.

In this article, we will delve into the benefits of tantric masturbation, provide guidance on how to engage in this practice, and offer detailed techniques for a fulfilling experience.

Benefits of Tantric Masturbation

Given that tantric masturbation is all about enhancing an individual's pleasure in the context of being by oneself, there are a lot of benefits that can come out of it! Making this more than just a sexual act. Healthline outlines the benefits of tantric masturbation and how it can drastically improve the way you feel pleasure and more generally, how it can improve your life:

1. Heightened Sensations

The first one's heightened sensations. Typically, heightened sensation carries a slightly negative connotation with them, often leading to sensory overwhelm and generally an unsavory experience to have. But in tantric masturbation, it is actually one of its key aspects. It puts great focus on the senses and how slowing down and paying attention to its changes can actually improve your pleasure and connection with yourself. Tantric techniques can help you discover new levels of pleasure and expand your capacity for sensual experiences.

2. Stress Relief

In today's fast-paced world, stress has become a common part of our lives. There's some coming from work, some from friends, some from family and some from the daily ruminations of life. While there is no way to completely avoid it, there are some ways that we can manage it such as tantric masturbation. It provides a therapeutic way to unwind by incorporating deep breathing and conscious touch. By knowing your body and how it feels pleasure, then you can create a space of calmness and serenity and consequentially, relieve that stress by releasing it through mindful orgasms. Apart from reducing stress levels, tantric masturbation can also promote a sense of overall well-being. That's because being able to know your body and pleasure it according to what makes you feel good, then it instills confidence and empowerment into the self, making you more capable of deciding things without pressure from the environment outside.

3. Self-Exploration

In the same breath, tantric masturbation is also an opportunity for self-exploration as well. If one's still in its beginning stages of discovering their own kind of pleasure, then this is a good way to gain a deeper understanding of your body, desires and preferences. It allows you to explore the different erogenous zones and how they respond to your touch, and try out different types of touch to see which works well with which particular part of your body. Doing this can allow you to overcome the obstacle that sex, in any form, is taboo and shouldn't be practiced anytime, any age. Eventually, it leads to a greater sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance because the truth of the matter is, our bodies deserve to be treated well and not be restricted by anything society deems to be "proper" or "modest". It's an experience that feels freeing because it gives back the control to you, who knows what you want best. 

4. Emotional Connection

Apart from the physical freedom and empowerment, tantric masturbation also allows you to cultivate a stronger emotional connection with yourself. Imagine it like this: there are moments where everything feels too much and subconsciously, you try to process that by detaching yourself from your emotions. Basically, forgetting about them. The truth is, this is not an ideal way to cope because you are preventing yourself from recognizing your emotions and finding better ways to resolve them. Tantric masturbation allows you the time to feel these intense emotions and reassure yourself that they're valid and a part of life. Acknowledgement leads to more self-love and acceptance, making you capable of facing these emotions head-on and in a healthier manner. Engaging in tantric masturbation can become a form of self-care, providing a space for you to honor your own needs and desires without judgment or shame.

5. Energy Flow

Last but definitely not the least, tantric principles emphasize the flow of sexual energy throughout the body. Now that you're empowered and free to make decisions for yourself in regards to your pleasure, you can then learn to harness and direct this energy to increase your vitality and sexual experiences with yourself and eventually, if you're willing, with a partner. That's because you're more attuned to the subtler nuances of pleasure which makes the experience uniquely yours.

How to Practice Tantric Masturbation

With the benefits of tantric masturbation in mind, let's now explore how to practice them. By following these steps by Mind Body Green, you can create a sacred space for self-exploration and connection:

1. Set the Mood

Set the Mood

Creating the right ambiance is essential for a tantric masturbation session. Make sure to set aside uninterrupted time where you can focus solely on yourself. That means, no distractions like your phone, your work, your chores, and everything else that can take your mind away from this intimate moment. If you need to check them off your list, then go right ahead! What's important is that you have nothing hanging above your head. Once that's settled, emulate the intimacy by transforming your room into an inviting space with soft lighting, relaxing music, soft sheets, clean towels and everything else that can make you comfortable and relaxed during this entire experience. In fact, you can go the extra mile by adding scented candles and sex toys like JOI. She's a rotating head, g-spot vibrator and clit licker. It's capable of realistic, tongue-licking clit pleasure especially for solo-play. With its 7 licking and 7 rotating patterns, there's endless ways to set the mood and even carry that towards the end of your tantric pleasure.

2. Mindful Breathing

Mindful Breathing

Once the mood has been set, take a few moments to center yourself through mindful breathing. Pick a spot where you're most comfortable, take a seat or whatever position you prefer before closing your eyes, take slow, deep breaths and allow yourself to relax. Focus on every sensation that occurs in your body, feel the air enter your nostrils and feel it exit as well. Feel the way your chest rises and falls and how the rest of your body melts. Feel how this relaxation clears your mind and lets you focus on the one thing that's important at that moment – your pleasure. Breathing can help you shake the tension off and cultivate the environment where you feel empowered to make choices about your body and the way you practice intimacy through tantric masturbation.

3. Slow and Sensual Touch

Slow and Sensual Touch

With your mind and body ready, you can now explore it through slow and deliberate movements. Whether through your hands or through sex toys, pay attention to the sensations that arise as you touch different parts of your body. For example, you might feel that tickle when you stimulate your nipples, or that zing climbing up your spine when you touch your clit or even plunge your fingers inside. Notice the texture of your skin, the warmth of your touch, and any areas that feel particularly sensitive or pleasurable. Don't forget to remember them for the next time that you engage in tantric masturbation and more importantly, take your time and savor each moment of self-pleasure.

4. Edging and Delayed Gratification

Edging and Delayed Gratification

Tantric masturbation in itself is already magical but there's an aspect within this technique that involves bringing yourself close to orgasm and then pausing before continuing. This is called edging – its purpose of which is to build anticipation by taking it away from yourself at the cusp of your release. It prolongs the pleasure and allows you to experience different levels of arousal. As you approach the edge of orgasm, take a moment to pause, breathe deeply, and allow the sexual energy to build within you.

5. Incorporate Visualization

Incorporate Visualization

The power of the mind is a potent tool in tantric masturbation. Use your imagination to enhance the experience by visualizing desired sensations, scenarios, or fantasies. Don't be afraid to put yourself in scenarios where you might be the pretty little princess in need of a delicious, unforgettable punishment or maybe a sexy vixen that knows what she wants and is on their way to get it. Allow your mind to create vivid images that heighten your arousal and pleasure. Experiment with different visualizations and discover what resonates with you the most.

6. Full-Body Awareness

Full-Body Awareness

Tantric masturbation is not solely focused on genital stimulation. It goes beyond that! It also focuses on your entire body and allows you the opportunity to explore erogenous zones that you may have overlooked before such as the neck, ears or inner thighs. The exploration of these overlooked areas can open up new ways to experience pleasure and even allow the entrance of sexual energy to flow through your body – eventually connecting you to every part of yourself, turning you towards a road of sexual empowerment.

Techniques for Tantric Masturbation

With these in mind, there are techniques to further enhance your tantric masturbation experience. Here are some specific techniques that you can incorporate:

1. The Heart Connection

Begin by placing your hand over your heart and connecting with your breath. Allow your touch to emanate from your heart as you explore your body. This technique helps cultivate a sense of self-love and compassion as you engage in self-pleasure. It's a confirmation that you will listen to yourself and what makes you feel good.

2. The Slow Spiral

With a feather-light touch, trace a spiral pattern starting from your thighs and moving towards your erogenous zones. The magic in this technique is that you can choose which erogenous zone for your fingers to fall into but we suggest starting with the neck and work your way down the chest and even back to your inner thighs. This technique allows you to awaken your senses and build anticipation as you slowly approach areas of heightened pleasure.

3. The Sacred Spot

For individuals with a prostate, gentle stimulation of the prostate can enhance pleasure and deepen the tantric experience. You can also follow the same moves as the Slow Spiral as it will give the same feeling of anticipation and pleasure. Take the time to explore this area with care and curiosity, honoring your body's responses.

4. The Breath Sync

Coordinate your breath with your touch to create a harmonious rhythm. Inhale as you move your hand up and exhale as you move your hand down. This technique helps sync your breath and your sexual energy, creating a more profound and connected experience.

5. The Sensory Feast

Engage all your senses to create a multisensory experience. Again, incorporate scented candles, soft fabrics, or music that resonates with your desires. Experiment with different sensory elements to enhance the overall pleasure and connection.


Remember, tantric masturbation is a deeply personal practice, and it's important to listen to your body and honor your boundaries. Take your time, be patient with yourself, and allow the experience to unfold naturally. Embrace this journey of self-exploration and connection through tantric masturbation, and discover the profound pleasure and self-discovery it can bring into your life.

Tina Young

Tina Young has always been passionate about exploring sexuality and empowering others to explore and express their own sexual desires. She is an experienced sex toy reviewer, examining people’s relationship with pleasure and the expression and fulfillment of their desires through sex toys. Tina is also a sex coach, helping individuals understand, express, and become comfortable with their own sexuality.