Vibrators are fun, versatile sex toys that come in a dozen or so different shapes and types. If you have a particular sexual need you'd like to cover, then chances are that there's a vibrator made just for you!
My vibrator is my go-to toy when I want to release some pent-up steam and sexual tension at the end of the day. What I love about vibrators is how they constantly evolve into these delicious things to provide greater pleasure. Rose vibrators, thrusting vibrators, and suction vibrators can really open up your world and make you think, 'why didn't I buy a vibrator ten years ago?'
As a sex toy, vibrators should be used within their safety limits. In the right hands, a vibrator literally becomes a sex machine that can satiate any fantasy and sexual urge. So, for this reason, we've come up with a helpful guide so you'll know how to properly use a vibrator.
Choosing the Right Vibrator
Browse through any sex toy store online and you'll discover 'vibrators' to be an ambiguous term. It has such a wide scope across sex toy categories and is often a feature in other products, such as a dildo or anal beads, for example.
The right vibrator for you is a sex toy that meets your personal needs and preferences. Say you want something that can give your clit or g-spot a buzz whenever you're doing some self-masturbation. In this case, a suction vibrator, wand vibrator, or g spot vibrator will be the perfect item. If you want a device that performs cunnilingus, then a suction vibrator is what you're looking for.
Take a good look at the features of a vibrator before you click the 'buy now' button so you'll end up with a sex toy you'd actually want to use regularly.
How to Use Different Types of Vibrators
How to Use a Bullet Vibrator
Bullet vibrators are smaller, more discreet, and portable, and they assume the shape of a bullet (hence the name). These toys are mainly used to pleasure the clit and g-spot. Simple and compact, bullet vibrators are for those who want to enjoy a bit of hot and sexy action and aren't willing to wait until they get home. Just insert the pointy end or use the device's body to rub against your sensitive spots, including your clit, g-spot, nipples, and even anus.
LILI is a smart bullet vibrator for solo and long distance play. The interactive toy can be controlled via an app for naughty endeavors.
How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator
Rabbit vibrators are considered advanced sex toys as they require more finesse and know-how before you can make full use of them. A rabbit vibrator will usually have two 'ears', or prongs that jut out of the main body of the device. A two-pronged approach means you can unlock dual or blended stimulation on both the inside and outside parts of your erogenous zone.
ELDA is an accomplished g spot vibrator and clit stimulator with supple and tender tips. It has a tapping mechanism if you're into that kind of play.
How to Use a Wand Vibrator
Did you know that magic wands were originally massage devices? Then someone discovered that it could double as an external vibrator. Wand types will have an enlarged and bulbous 'head' at the end, which serves as the main proponent for sexual release. As far as operation goes wand vibrators are pretty straightforward- press the power button, adjust the vibration setting or speed, and go to town. The roller-like design is made so that it touches a wide area. Press the head close to your clit and feel the vibrations.
Small yet capable of producing earth-shaking orgasms, Pomi Wand is a miniature version of original wand vibrators. It's lightweight and perfect for those on-the-go sexual rendezvous.
How to Use a G Spot Vibrator
G spot vibrators are similar to rabbit vibrators in that they're multi-use devices. They have these weird shapes that make sense after you've read through the manual. G spot vibrators are a bit more complicated, but they're primarily to reach and stimulate the g spot until you reach orgasm. Some devices will have a dildo-like protrusion so you can get a banging good time. We recommend understanding the features and spending a bit of time with your sex toy before going wild.
JOI is the toy to get if you simply love having your clit and g-spot get some personal love. There's even a wagging tongue and a rotating end that can send you into a new level of orgasm.
How to Use a Clitoral Vibrator
Clitoral vibrators go by many names, including clit licker, clit sucker, and clitoral stimulator. Aside from vibrating functions, these sex toys will have moving parts that simulate someone who's going down on you and performing cunnilingus. By design, most of these toys will be small and have parts that resemble a tongue. A button press either activates the vibration or causes the 'tongue' to start wagging. Hold the clitoral vibrator close to your clit and g-spot, lie back, and have fun.
Scioness can lick and suck clits like the best of them. The good news is that Scioness won't tire out or give up until you're 100% satisfied.
How to Use a Rose Vibrator
Rose vibrators are small and cleverly-shaped sex toys that resemble a rose (hence the name). They're not meant for penetration, and if you try to make this happen it won't end well for you. Instead, the best use of a rose vibrator is to hold it close to your genitals and let the vibrations generate waves of pleasure. More often than not, these rose vibrators will also have a suction or blowing technology to simulate the act of cunnilingus.
Fiona has an extra stem most other rose vibrators don't have. The rose part is a perfect clit companion, while the vibrating egg can either go into your vagina or anus.
How to Use a Suction Vibrator
A suction vibrator is similar to a rose vibrator in that the magic happens externally. These sex toys are safer than most because all you need is to hold the suction mechanism close to your sensitive parts and let the device do the rest. The buttons and settings are there to intensify the sensations or to activate a suction or blowing action. Suction vibrators are also discreet and portable, which means you can probably get in a nice session or two while in the office, car, or bathroom.
Xbiz Awards winner Seduction is aptly named because it's a master cunnilingus machine. With 10 licking modes and 5 suction modes, you'll surely have a favorite setting in minutes of using the suction vibrator.
How to Use a Vibrating Dildo
A vibrating dildo works just like a penis, only that it vibrates for added pleasure. The sex toy is mainly used for penetrating either the vagina or anus. Get a firm and secure grip while playing with the vibrating dildo and lube up before you do so.
Alger is big, black, and bad, and it vibrates on command. Being waterproof, you can bring Alger to the bathroom or shower for a wet and wild ride.
How to Use a Thrusting Vibrator
Nice and slow is the best approach when using a thrusting vibrator for the first time. Charge up the vibrator's battery sufficiently, then read the manual to get an idea of how it works. A thrusting vibrator will have a pushing mechanism, so you have to be careful when inserting the sex toy. Get past the learning curve and you'll find the thrusting vibrator to be a mind-blowing, realistic experience that doesn't involve your fingers.
Fiona Plus is an updated version to the best-seling rose vibrator and features a good-sized thruster for vaginal or anal action. Try it in pink or red color.
How to Use a Finger Vibrator
One of the smallest vibrators around, a finger vibrator is basically a finger accessory that vibrates. It 'assists' you as you go to town with manual stimulation, and the end can be used for shallow insertion as well. If you'd like more oomph, then you can go ahead and purchase several and wear them all simultaneously. One goes to the g spot, while the other plays with the nipples, for example.
Start your sexual journey with a capable and sneaky toy like Dory. This finger vibrator is always ready for action!
How to Use a Couples Vibrator
A couples vibrator will require some coordination between you and your partner. First, the vibrator has to be inserted into its proper position and activated to generate the buzz. Then, the partner should start penetration so he could feel the vibrations. Once inside, the remote takes care of minor adjustments, from vibration speed to clit tapping and others. Like all other insertable vibrators, plenty of lube is needed for the ultimate pleasure.
For equal partner pleasure nothing beats Le Couplet. Give up control or use the remote and experience a level of orgasm like no other.
How to Use a Dual Vibrator
The word 'dual' in a dual vibrator means there are two ends that go into the anus and vagina. The first step is to figure out which end of the toy is supposed to go where, then when you're all nice and comfortable press the button and submit to the waves. Some support might be needed, e.g. underwear or your hand to keep the dual vibrator in place.
Womanizer by Lovehoney is a clit and g spot stimulator and vaginal penetrator in one. Activate the 'suck' mode, then lie back and enjoy.
How to Use a Vibrating Cock Ring
Vibrating cock rings are straightforward as they come. However, there's a single important thing you should know before you use it- have a bottle of lube at the ready and apply a generous amount before slipping into the ring. Cock rings are meant to stay at the base of the penis and as close to the balls as possible. If it's adjustable, then make it so that it's not loose and stays in place without it feeling too uncomfortable or restrictive.
Roxy serves both him and her with a rotating clit licker affixed at the end. Activate the vibration for some extra fun in the bedroom.
How to Use a Vibrating Stroker
Strokers, or auto masturbators are male-focused sex toys that do the stroking on their own without any help from you. They can either be operated by hand or have a suction base from where they sit. In any case, plenty of lube is needed to prevent unwanted chafing and injury. First, power up the stroker and lube the penis, then insert your cock and cum to completion. Some caution and testing will be needed for male stroker beginners.
Sky not only vibrates, but also sucks for that blowjob sensation. Innovative motors and air-sucking technology will come in handy if you want to switch up your solo play every now and then.
How to Use a Prostate Vibrator
Should you ever find yourself with a prostate vibrator on hand, here's what you should do. If with a partner, have them do a little 'test' with a gloved and lubed finger so you can get used to the sensation. Then, lube the vibrator up and slowly have your partner ease the toy in until it hits the sweet spot. If you're alone, then use a mirror to try and get the toy into position. Use lots of lube and exercise caution.
Quinn's dual action mode will both shock and awe users. It's a superb prostate stimulator and anal toy in one neat package.
How to Use a Vibrator During Sex
The beauty of a vibrator is that it's a versatile bedroom toy. Vibrators can fill in the gaps where there's extra stimulation needed, such as the nipples, the clitoris, and the prostate, to name a few. Every experience is different for each couple depending on how they want the vibrator to act and the fantasy they want to live out.
As a side note, make sure the vibrator is charged up and there's plenty of lube. Experiment a bit and figure out where it's most pleasurable for you and your partner. Go slow and steady while still having intimate physical contact. If you plan to have a vibrating dildo as a finisher, then it's best to discuss and follow through. Talk and discuss the experience afterward. More importantly, don't forget to have fun and relax.
How to Use a Vibrator for the First Time
It's okay to feel a little nervous about using a complicated sex toy for the first time. However, you shouldn't blindly rush into the experience without knowing anything about the device. If possible, masturbate beforehand so you can deliberately go slow while exploring the features of your new toy.
Take the vibrator out of the packaging and see if it needs to be charged first. Then, open the little book of instructions and check out manufacturer recommendations and warnings. Know which parts are for which and the on and off button. Then, activate the vibrator and get a feel for the speed and vibration settings on your skin and external genitals. Once you're confident and ready, go to work and see how the toy feels inside.
How to Use a Vibrator with a Partner
There are several ways to go about using a vibrator with a partner, and it's just like the 'during sex' part above. Get consent and 100% approval from your partner before you begin, then discuss how you'd like to integrate the sex toy into the bedroom.
In couples play the key is to have both individuals interact with the sex toy, whether it's the guy who's holding it or the girl who puts it in the most sensitive places. It would be great if constant communication is done while playing- ask him or her if the vibrator feels good, and if they have any requests where they want to put it next. In penetrative acts, don't go in high and dry as it can end the session pretty quickly. Have a bottle of lube on hand.
How to Use a Vibrator on a Man
So maybe you or your partner are feeling adventurous and want to try some of this vibrator stuff for extra stimulation. However, you will still need to ask where they're interested in putting the vibrator, e.g., will it be a supplement device to stimulate the external genitals? Or are they willing to put it inside their anus or prostate?
Depending on the answer, you should always prepare beforehand. Set the mood with lights or scented candles, and put on some music to ease the mind and body. For anal penetration, you can do a finger check with gloves and lube before inserting the vibrator. External stimulation can be done using a hand and a firm grip on the sex toy.
Communication and Consent
Vibrators can be fun and all, but there's a level of responsibility that comes with owning and using the sex toy. If you're single, then you won't have to be accountable to your partner when using a vibrator any time and however you like. In a relationship though, navigating the sex toy waters can be complicated, especially when it comes to consent.
In the simplest terms, consent is the approval of your partner when using a sex toy such as a vibrator in the bedroom. Even if you intend to use a vibrator solely for your own pleasure, it's always good to let your partner know. Consent goes to a whole other level if you want to incorporate them into couple play.
It can be as simple as introducing the topic of vibrators into the conversation before any foreplay is done. If your partner agrees, then great! The next step involves how you both will want to use the vibrator. Will it be used to enhance penetration, or to fulfill a fantasy or roleplaying scenario you've always dreamed about?
The bottom line is that you will need to hear the word 'yes' before you add a vibrator into the mix. Don't push further if your partner says 'no' and be patient. Respect their boundaries and wishes, and talk it over.
Cleaning and Storage
Vibrators can get dirty from all the lube and juices that make contact with the device during play. You wouldn't want to use a dirty condom or a dildo that's lying down on the floor, would you? Hygiene is an important part of sexual health and well-being, and you shouldn't do shortcuts in this regard.
Make it a point to clean your vibrator after every play session. It doesn't have to be thorough- just a quick rinse with gentle soap and warm water should do the trick. Also, read the manual and find out if there's any special care as per the manufacturer, e.g., for internal parts and moving mechanisms. As a general rule, a vibator should be wiped dry before you attempt to insert or have it make contact with your skin again.
When not in use, keep your vibrator in a cool and dry place. If the toy comes with its own pouch or case, then great. Otherwise, you can buy third-party accessories to keep your vibrator safe and ready for the next session.
As a final note, sex toys should be hidden out of sight until you're ready. Good places include the closet, shelves, and drawers. You can also store your vibrator in a backpack or suitcase if you don't use them often.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I Use a Vibrator without Lube?
We do not recommend using a vibrator without lubing up first, even if it's to touch the external erogenous zones. Without lube the vibrator will feel rough and uncomfortable, which does not equal enjoyment and sexual satisfaction. Lubricants are a must especially if you're going in the anal zone as that part doesn't have natural lubrication.
Can a Vibrator Get Stuck Inside Me?
Yes, if you're not careful. Most modern vibrators will have safety features, such as a better grip or a wider base to prevent the device from slipping in. Always be mindful when using a vibrator that goes inside your body. Don't push the sex toy all the way in- if it feels too shallow, then you should buy a longer vibrator or a vibrating dildo.
Can I Bring My Vibrator in the Bath/Shower/Pool?
Be careful when using a vibrator in the shower, bath tub, or pool as the sex toy can slip inside or fall to the ground. Also, make sure that the vibrator has a waterproof rating so it won't get damaged while submerged or soaked in water. Read the manual for guidance or the product description on the sex toy shop before you click the 'buy' button.
Should I Buy Cheap Unbranded Vibrators?
It's better to buy premium branded vibrators from brands such as Honey Play Box, Lelo, or Pink Cherry because you'll have a good chance that the product will work as intended and last years. Budget-minded shoppers can wait for sales events or discounted promos to get their vibrators for less.
Why Do I Need to Clean My Vibrator?
As mentioned earlier, hygiene is very important when it comes to sex and sex toys. You should always wash your vibrator after every use and allow it to dry before taking it to the bedroom again. Not doing so increases your risk of getting an infection and puts a hold on your intimate play sessions.
What is the Difference Between a Vibrator and a Dildo?
A vibrator and a dildo often overlap each other- a dildo can be a vibrator, while a vibrator can be a dildo. Dildos are usually shaped like a penis, while vibrators can assume a wide variety of sizes and shapes.
Conclusion
So there you have it- a comprehensive guide on how to use a vibrator of virtually every kind and shape. It stands to reason that most people will know how to use a vibrator, but to be on the safe side you should still give the included manual a good flip.
You'll know when a vibrator is the right sex toy for you if it ticks all the right boxes in your sexual preference. As always, get consent from your partner and discuss the merits and possible scenarios before playing.
Other than that, having a vibrator around will be a huge plus in the sex and wellness aspect of everyone's lives. Free yourself and enjoy the pleasure that comes with sex toys and vibrators!
