When someone mentions sex, what pops up in your mind? Do you start imagining a passionate and over-the-top porn scene, or maybe steamy Titanic sex?
Maybe you're like the 40-year-old virgin and you've never done the deed, or perhaps you're just like the horny teens from American Pie who have done it all, and hump like rabbits.
Whatever the case, there just might be a possibility that you've at least once in your life, asked yourself the question, "What does sex feel like?"
Well, if you've asked this question before, or would simply like to get some in-depth knowledge and facts about sex and what it feels like, then you're in for a treat.
This article aims to penetrate and go deep inside the topic of sex and its unique pleasures.
What Is Sex?
Sex isn't always like a Hollywood sex scene, where two people passionately rip clothes off each other and start moaning away until they orgasm at the same time.
People define sex in many different ways. The majority of people seem to hold the view that it qualifies as sex only if a penis enters a vagina.
However, sex is rather dynamic – in other words, it may not always be one-size-fits-all. The goal is to simply have a good time. How you go about having that good time is up to the people involved.
These dynamics are what have caused the definition of sex to evolve over the years, which leads to the next point which is the types of sex out there.
Types of Sex
Again, the issue of what is considered sex may be up for debate, however, according to Planned Parenthood, there are at least six types of sex that seem common to most people.
- vaginal sex
- oral sex
- anal sex
- hand jobs
- masturbationor solo sex
- dry humping or genital rubbing
Apart from these, there are also other types of sex in today's modern society. Some of those are:
- phone sex
- foot jobs
Is Sex Good For You?
For both men and women, sex has crazy benefits for the body and overall well-being. Sex has been seen as a natural headache cure, and a natural sleeping pill.
Dr. Michael Breus says research suggests that when sex involves orgasm, it can help people sleep. He further says that climaxing releases hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, and the hormone cortisol decreases following orgasm. This combination of hormonal processes makes people feel sleepy and tired.
Here's a list of the benefits of sex:
- Maintains a healthy immune system
- Boosts libido
- Improves women's bladder control
- Lowers blood pressure
- Counts as exercise
- Lowers risk of a heart attack
- Lessens pain
- Lowers risk of prostate cancer
- Improves sleep
- It can be a stress buster
So now you've decided to finally do the deed and get a taste of genital paradise.
The first time doing anything will always be awkward, nerve-wracking, and may even go wrong. It's not always like in the movies, so give yourselves some grace and learn as you go, and be open to mistakes or mishaps on your first time.
On your first time, you can expect:
- a little pain
- a little awkwardness, and nervousness
- things to take a little more time
Before you jump into bed and fuck the night away, it's important to first put some things in place just to be extra careful and safe. These are:
- You and your partner should test for STIs - if you've had any oral sex before
- Get condoms - STIs are real, so stay safe
- Communicate - agree on what's comfortable for you both
When it comes to the issue of pain, this is absolutely normal, especially for women. Because of the hymen inside the vagina, women are more prone to feeling discomfort and pain, but also some pleasure.
It's therefore important for the male partner to be patient and penetrate slowly and gently without rushing to jab it in and jackhammer the woman.
You could also consider lubing up the vagina to reduce friction since the nervousness could make it hard for some women to naturally moisten down there.
If it really won't stop hurting, you could both consider trying again another time and calling it a night. You wouldn't want to endure sex but enjoy it.
What Does Sex Feel Like for Women?
Different women feel different sensations when having sex. However, there seem to be common sensations that most women describe about how sex feels.
“It feels like being slowly filled with something that creates an immense sense of pleasure, tingling, and a general good feeling," said one lady.
Here's what some women have to say about how sex feels:
- "First, you feel pressure, and then it feels warmer and warmer as the penis goes back and forth. You mainly feel fullness and warmth." _Heather
- "When I'm in the mood it does bring about a satisfaction unlike any other. If I'm particularly horny and haven't had sex for ages it feels like scratching an intense itch that nothing else will satisfy, and I mean absolutely nothing." _Sammi
- "It might sound obvious, but it's like being filled up. Especially if you're turned on, your vagina feels like it won't be okay if it doesn't get that filling sensation. A finger will do it sometimes, but other times you just need to be stretched by a penis." _Rebecca
- "I would say there's definitely a sense of euphoria once the D first goes in. There's an initial rush through your body. Definitely not as intense as an orgasm but still gets your blood pumping and your heart racing and sending shivers through your body. It's tingly and good-sensitive around the outer vagina but inside I can't feel much D unless it's a monster cock that feels like it's smashing into my stomach or on a bad angle then that's painful." _Cara
- "If it's a wrong or bad angle and too deep/hard you feel like your insides are being stabbed." _Kim
What Does Sex Feel Like for Men?
Most men would say that sex feels like your penis has entered a warm and moist cave.
Here's what some men had to say about what sex feels like:
- "Ladies, you have to try to imagine your clitoris being engulfed under a hot, searing pressure. Yeah, I think that's the feeling."
- "A slice of heaven that just makes you go mmmmmm."
- "Warm and wet - while the vagina is like soft velvety tissues around your penis".
- "It's completely like wrapping your penis in warm silk."
What Does Anal Sex Feel Like?
When it comes to anal, everyone who's experienced it has mixed feelings about it. Both men and women who have been on the receiving end of anal sex have quite a bit to say about it.
Here are some descriptions from those who've had anal sex:
- "Anal sex feels grainier if that makes sense. I don't enjoy it as much as vaginal because you also have to prepare a lot for it. It's a much more vulnerable area than the vagina and I can't go as fast or powerful when doing anal. The novelty wore off on me quickly."
- "Hearing a partner moan from anal sex is different than hearing a moan from vaginal and I find it sounds a bit hotter."
- "Vaginal is a sensation of tightness across the entire penis, whereas anal is more of a single ring feeling because the sphincter is the tightest point. For me, anal feels a little tighter so there's more friction. It's not more enjoyable for me, and most of my friends don't feel like it's more enjoyable either. It's just something that's different and treated in common culture as taboo, which makes it more interesting."
- "I actually think in terms of physical sensations, that the vagina feels better than the anus. The vagina has more texture, is wetter, and in general, feels better. My love of anal is purely psychological. For me, ass-play is one more thing I like to incorporate into my sexual toolkit, so to speak. Just one more way to give and receive pleasure from each other."
- "Vaginal is a wet and smooth feeling. Multiple ridges and muscles along the vaginal canal. When doing it in strokes, it feels like a series of tight waves made slick by lube or the girl being wet, etc. Anal is a tight push feeling. There is one 1/4" point of a very tight muscle (much tighter than a vagina), it grips you hard and steady until you pass through into the rest of the space in the colon. When doing in strokes, it feels like a firm solid grip on the penis that only lets up when you sink all the way in."
Real People Describe What Sex Feels Like
Solo Sex/Masturbating With Vibrators
Certified sex coach Gigi Engle stresses that your solo sex sessions are just as important as partnered sex sessions. She further emphasizes that solo sex is a wonderful way to connect with your body and experience pleasure.
Masturbating is in itself pain-relieving, stress-busting, mood-enhancing, and sleep-promoting.
Bringing in some ‘extra hands' during your solo sessions could take you to places you never imagined you could go. Vibrators and other sex toys can move better than fingers can, and get the job done in amazing ways.
Here are a few tips for taking your solo sex sessions to level 10:
- Try different strokes like moving your fingers counterclockwise and clockwise, stroking diagonally left to right, then right to left, and so on
- Try arousing other body parts of yours such as your butt – lube up your ass and try inserting butt plugs, anal beads, and anal dildos
- Try changing locations – try having your solo sessions in the kitchen, car, shower, living room, or wherever you can (provided it's safe and clean)
In conclusion, sex is the most exhilarating and powerful human experiences ever, and no other thing can seem to match up with the pleasures of sex.
There are plenty of sex types and positions for you to explore, and enjoy unending pleasures. Remember, no sex is perfect, but it can be pleasurable.
Q: What's having sex for the first time like?
A: Don't expect fireworks the first time—whether it's oral, anal, manual, or penetrative. Sex is messy, human, flawed, and often awkward, no matter how many times you've done it. It's the practice and the exploration that make sex fun.
Q: How do I make sure my partner orgasms during sex?
A: Your partner should figure out what makes them orgasm and how to incorporate that into your sexual activity. This comes easily for some and not so easily for others.
Q: What do I do when the condom breaks?
A: Consider getting tested for STDs if you were using it to prevent them, then go to the pharmacy and pick up an OTC Plan B. You can do this most effectively up to three days after the condom breaks.
Q: Will I bleed during first-time vaginal sex?
A: Probably. Bleeding the first time is normal, but there likely won't be a lot of blood, so don't freak out. Some people bleed, others don't. You're more likely to bleed if your hymen hasn't been broken.
Q: Will sex hurt?
A: Having sex for the first time may be more uncomfortable than it is painful. Just use lots of lube for easier penetration.
Q: What should I talk about with my partner before having sex?
A: In order to have good sex, you should communicate your wants, needs, and desires to your partner.