Beginner's Guide to Male Sex Toys

Male sex toys enriches a guy's sex life by providing realistic pleasures without needing a partner. Not only that, but they come in different types- as a training tool, for exploring other erogenous zones, and as a willing companion in the bedroom.

Male sex toys can fill in the sexual needs gap nicely, and in today's world, there are hundreds and hundreds of options to choose from. Navigating through the selections can be a tedious process, and this is where we come in and help.

In our beginner's guide to male toys, you'll learn what a male sex toy is, the many ways you can use them, and the types of male sex toys available. Furthermore, we'll outline the methods of choosing a sex toy that's right for you.

Beginner’s Guide to Male Sex Toys

What is a Male Sex Toy?

A male sex toy is a manual or automatic device that can provide pleasure. A classic example is the pocket pussy, sometimes referred to as a 'fleshlight'. It's a sex toy that stimulates the penis by emulating vaginal, oral, or anal penetration.

Generally speaking, a man's sex toy is something that guys use to get sexual bliss. In many cases, these toys are mainly for the penis, but some sex gadgets train your penis to be longer and harder. Others can stimulate your prostate for a heightened orgasm.

Like women's sex toys, their male counterparts come with technological features such as auto-thrust, rotating, and vibrating options. All these things add to better sex overall regardless of whether you're flying solo or with a partner.

How Do I Use a Male Sex Toy?

A male sex toy encompasses several categories, including an auto blowjob machine, a penis pump, a pocket pussy, a prostate massager, and a cock ring. Here are simple instructions on how to use all of them.

Automatic Blowjob Machine

Automatic Blowjob Machine

The keyword here is 'auto', which means the sex toy should do all the movement. It could be an auto thruster or a blowjob device that goes back and forth or rotates on its own. Charge up the device, apply a generous amount of lube, insert your penis, and go to town.

For varying experiences, you can switch up the vibration or have the device go from 'suck' to 'blow'. An auto masturbator is versatile enough that you can position it in multiple angles, just like you would real sex.

Penis Pump

Penis Pump

A penis pump requires care and attention- don't try to use it while doing something else. In the easiest terms possible, you put your penis in the enclosure, then use the built-in vacuum to get all the air out of the device. Some penis pumps will have a pulling motion or even vibrate to maximize the experience and double as a sex cup, respectively.

Penis pumps can be used several times a day in short bursts, e.g., 10 to 15 minutes or so per session. You won't need to do anything else once your penis is in place. Just relax and let the training tool do its thing.

Pocket Pussy (or Fleshlight)

Pocket Pussy (or Fleshlight)

A pocket pussy is among the most popular sex toys for men. It's portable, convenient, and lets you get off with minimal interaction. Best of all, it beats having to masturbate with your hand and simulates the feeling of entering a real vagina.

Most pocket pussies are straightforward toys that have inner sleeves where you do the pumping. You can choose from different kinds, such as having a mouth, pussy, or anal sleeve depending on your preference.

Prostate Massager

Prostate Massager

Prostate massagers can be a 'huh?' moment for guys. The idea of having your anal regions penetrated to get to the perineum can be an alien concept. These devices are shaped like their women counterparts, albeit a bit smaller and thicker.

First-timers will want to experiment with this for a few minutes or have their partners do the manual stimulation for them. As always, bring plenty of lube so you won't experience micro-tears and discomfort up your bum.

Cock Ring

Cock Ring

The humble cock ring can be a male sex toy too, especially for those who want better sexual performance. In itself, cock rings are devices that go near the base of the penis and the balls to trap blood inside, thereby making the penis larger and more rigid. Plus, you can delay ejaculation and last longer in the bedroom.

The 5 Best Male Sex Toys You Can Buy

KAI - Best Blowjob Machine & Automatic Blowjob Simulator

KAI - Best Blowjob Machine & Automatic Blowjob Simulator

KAI is one of the best male sex toys you can buy today, mostly because its features simulate oral and vaginal sex realistically. There's a lot you can do with this penis toy, and it's guaranteed to give you all-day pleasure!

As an auto blowjob machine, KAI features an inhale and spit-out motion to provide the feeling of a woman sucking your cock. You can also vary the suction patterns according to how hard or soft you want the action to be. 12 vibration pattern options can come in really handy if you want extreme realism. Last but not least, inside is a 3D sleeve with dots and ridges that create a lifelike feel. The waterproof sucking sex toy will surely milk your cum to the last drop.

WARRIOR - Auto Thrusting Stroker Automatic Male Masturbator

WARRIOR - Auto Thrusting Stroker Automatic Male Masturbator

If you're looking for a male masturbator that can deliver insane power, look no further than our XBIZ-awarded WARRIOR. This auto thrusting stroker has 7 different settings and moves with incredible speed and force, giving you an experience like no other. Despite its power, it's whisper-quiet, allowing you to enjoy yourself without any distracting noise. 

What makes the WARRIOR truly unique is its hands-free design. Thanks to its sturdy suction base, you can stick it to any smooth, non-porous surface and enjoy infinite pleasure without using your hands. Plus, the patented disassembly technology makes cleaning up a breeze. The transparent sleeve can be easily removed for cleaning, and assembly and disassembly are a cinch. With its combination of power, pleasure, and convenience, the WARRIOR is the perfect addition to any guy's collection. 

HAYDEN - Automatic Rotating & Thrusting Male Masturbator

HAYDEN - Automatic Rotating & Thrusting Male Masturbator


This male sex toy is so good we just have to add it to our list. HAYDEN offers a different experience from KAI (also an auto blowjob machine), but who says you can't get two of them to play with? Alternate and enjoy your solo play sessions with either device and you'll surely have an awesome time!

HAYDEN's auto rotating and thrusting can feel like someone's sucking your cock or riding you to kingdom come. Activate suction mode for blowjobs or thrusting mode and you can imagine a girl sliding down her vagina into your penis. The automatic stroking technology eases you out of manual mode so you won't have to do the hard work of masturbating. Plus, a full charge gives you up to an hour and a half of play.

Tips for Using a Male Sex Toy

Charge to Full Battery

Yes, we know how excited you are when opening a sex toy for the first time. However, you can get more mileage out of your brand-new male toy if you would charge it up first and wait for the battery to get to 100%.

Most male masturbators will come with their own chargers and cables. If you're going to be using a manual toy, such as a cock ring or penis pump, then go right ahead and play with it. Your male sex toy running out of juice just as you're about to cum will be a major bummer, so try to avoid it the best you can.

Read the Manual

While waiting for your male toy to charge up, go ahead and open the little booklet and learn more about your device. Sex toy manufacturers will often leave little instructions on how to best use their device, as well as any precautions you should follow if you want a safe and fun session.

More importantly, you can get a deeper understanding of how your toy works so you'll know what to press and where to point your masturbator when it's play time. This should only take a few minutes at best.

Experiment First Before Playing

Resist the temptation to go full-blast when it's your first time using your sex toy. Deliberately go slow and check out what each button or feature does. You wouldn't want to accidentally get injured just because you were too eager or didn't read the manual, would you?

Again, it's a matter of being patient and waiting a few more minutes before you enjoy your solo play. The orgasm will be as expected if you have complete mastery over your new sex toy.

Lube, Lube, Lube

Yep, lube is just as important as the sex toy itself. Make sure you have plenty on hand to prevent nasty burns and injuring your penis, balls, or anus. Depending on the type of male toy, you'd want to apply an ample amount onto your penis, namely the shaft, head, and skin. When you feel it's nice and slippery enough, then you can go ahead and penetrate.

How to Choose the Right Male Masturbator


It's best to ask yourself, 'what do I want in a male sex toy?' when choosing a device. Check out what's out there and think about what you want in your experience. It could be a cock ring you'd want to bring in partner play, or a full-on auto masturbator if you want all the bells and whistles.


Size actually matters when it comes to male sex toys. You wouldn't want it too tight that it's simply not possible to penetrate or wear, nor too big that handling is clumsy and non-sexy. Read the product description when buying a sex toy so you can get an idea if it will fit nicely or not. As a side note, you can check the specifications in line with the size of your penis.


There's a reason why popular sex toy brands stay in the market- their products are high-quality, and they work as intended. Consumers are more likely to get the sex toy they need for their own use rather than an unbranded one that breaks instantly. At Honey Play Box, we provide excellent male sex toys for those who want to have fun with their devices. All our products go through stringent production requirements and have innovative features that outshine the competition. If you're in the market for a quality male sex toy, then we invite you to browse through our shop today!

F Inglewood - Honey Play Box

F Inglewood is a writer and editor from Latin America with a passion for telling meaningful stories and helping others find their own literary voice. He specializes in writing erotic stories, articles, blogs, and writing about pleasure products. He loves to write about pleasure, passion, and people’s fantasies because he believes that reading about these things that we all share is a way to encourage confidence and self-acceptance. When he’s not writing, he loves reading fantasy books, watching movies, and playing video games.